Some moms, when they find out their kid is about to get
married, call the florists and the caterers. Me being me, I called the bobcat
and the excavator. What I was thinking when I volunteered to have the reception
at our house, knowing that we had neither yard nor patio, no place to sit, and
that we lived virtually in a dog toy graveyard, I have no idea. Be that as it
may, the wedding came off splendidly. We *do* now have a yard, a patio, and the
dog toy graveyard is no longer a main feature. The heavy equipment left three
days before the Big Day, and I was still planting trees and hanging lights till
literally 45 minutes before I was supposed to be at the church. It was a
perfect SoCal evening, with an almost full moon and a gentle temperature. It was
relaxed, sweet, lovely, and wonderful, and man, am I glad its over.
I miss writing two or three times a week. Heck, I miss
riding, too, and the boys have been totally neglected while I ran around with
concrete and bricks and potted plants. But things are settled now, and I am
catching up on body clipping and feet trimming and will ride again today,
hooray!
Let’s go back to how we addressed Brian’s cross tie issues.
This approach, of small therapeutic doses endlelessly repeated, worked well
with him. It works well with all horses, and is a big part of why my horses, no
matter their pasts or backgrounds, are well behaved and trusting and obedient.
And so with Bryan ,
this was the basis of all of the work that we did whether mounted, on the
ground, or during free work.
The consistency of The Rules goes across the board. Every
time we handled him it was the same; no slinging your head around (thereby cracking
the human in the face) no stepping past the human; no dragging behind the
human; no screaming when attached to the human; no jumping on top of the
human…I think you get the drift. As usual, every horse we would take in would
grasp The Rules quickly; horses aren’t dumb and they crave and honor
leadership. Natch, B, not being the sharpest marble in the drawer, took a
longer time than the others.
Gates, and gate manners, are a big deal to me. More people
get kicked and stomped at gates and going in and out of gates than I think
maybe anywhere. I see people being so casual around horses and gates and while
doing turnouts and it makes me crazy. Before anyone starts to ride with me our
first lessons include how to lead, how to deal with the horses on the ground,
and how to deal with gates.
My horses walk through the gate after I do. They turn around
when we enter and face me and stand. They stand quietly until I let them go and
step away. There is no free for all, there is no tearing away from me, there is
no ‘open the gate and off they go’ thing, at all. They learn this right away,
and I make sure that anyone who handles them learns it as well.
He in general was so frantic to get away from wherever he
was, and get back to the barn from
wherever he was, that he would fly
through a gate, spin, and either back up or pull away. It didn’t seem to matter
to him whether he was coming or going; it was a gate, and it was made to be
crashed through. When we turned him out, he would fly backward and race to the
fence line closest to the barn, and start The Trip Home (this of course was
really just back and forth, head up, eyes blank, for hours, but in his mind
there was Purpose). When we brought him in, he would race through the gate and try
to drag you back to the barn, prancing, head up, eyes blank. It frustrated me,
but it broke my heart as well.
Next: small breakthroughs.
Hey Abby - Congratulations on your daughter's wedding! I put my sister's wedding on at my house and it was an all-consuming and exhausting (and never-to-be-forgotten and glorious) affair.
ReplyDeleteI love what you have to say about gates, and concur (as usual!). I also consider going in and out of gates to be one of the most dangerous activities we do with horses.
One of the first things I work on when a new horse comes to my farm is gate manners. My verbal cue is "away." And then I expect the horses to take their positions (it's actually pretty cute when they do).
I let them choose their "away" positions, but once they do, that's where I expect them to go. It doesn't take long, and it makes it safe for everyone to lead.
It's great to have you back blogging and continuing the Story of Bryan.